Welcome back everyone! The Spring Semester has just begun, and the Women’s Center is excited to get things rolling again.
Hopefully everyone had a good break, and is ready to go!
Next Tuesday, January 20th at 2 p.m. in Room 331, will be our first meeting of the new semester, and we are really looking forward to everyone coming out and discussing what you would like to see happen throughout the semester. So, please bring your ideas, let us know what things you would like us to discuss, and what kind of impact we could all make on our campus.
Photo Credit: Welcome signs, Laem Tong beach, Phi Phi Don Island, Thailand, Southeast Asia, Asia. Photography. Encyclopædia Britannica ImageQuest. Web. 13 Jan 2015.
Lately there has been a lot of information flying around about street harassment, as well as a lot of videos that are demonstrating what people deal with on a daily basis. There have been a lot of comments thrown around about how “men cannot even say hello to woman now”, which is completely missing the point. The reality is that there are people trying to go about their day, and have comments thrown at them that are either inappropriate flat out, or the way in which they said invite trouble.
This <a title=”Guy Walking Around NYC” href=”http://www.upworthy.com/guy-walking-around-nyc-for-10-hours-is-the-street-harassment-response-for-anyone-who-doesnt-get-it” target=”_blank”>video</a> with the roles reversed.
The other week while waiting for the train, some guy came up to me and said, “Hello, how are you? I would like some Starbucks.” Looking at that words themselves, the words do not seem particularly offensive or threatening, but he managed to say all of those things in a way that made my skin crawl. Who knew that someone could make Starbucks sound creepy? I really wanted to hop in the shower after that interaction.
What a lot of people have been saying, and what my own experiences have showed, yes the words themselves can seem fine enough, but either the way they are said, or the way the person is acting makes them seem threatening or pushy. However, there are times that the comments made are just are awful and verbally abusive. People should be able to go about their day, without having to worry about who and what is going to come up to them. And contrary to the comments the “man of honor makes” no we do not have to deal with it, and most people just want to be able to go about their day without having to have to rebuff, avoid, dissuade, flee from, defend oneself from some person (whether they are attractive or not, it comes out as creepy and invasive).
And to show that the world does still have some awesomeness it it, here is the remix to the CNN debate, which might be even better than the debate itself:
The Women’s Center has had a busy week, attending some great events for wonderful causes. First we attended the Clothesline Project, which we hope will be a continuing tradition on our campus. There were quite a few students, staff, faculty, and whole departments that participated.
The library even did a display that provides further information on the topic.
SAS may be doing it again in the Spring, so if you were unable to attend this semester, keep checking back so you can participate next semester.
After the Clothesline Project, the Women’s Center held its annual Breast Cancer walk around campus. There were goodies in the Women Center ( cupcakes and other treats) that were awaiting us after our walk.
We want to give a big thanks to everyone who showed support and came out participated!
Many of you heard about Emma Sulkowicz, and her art project / protest in regards to how her sexual assault charges were handled at Columbia University. She walked around campus carrying an XL mattress because her attacker was never removed from the campus, and soon others joined her to help carry the mattress (the burden of being sexual assaulted). If you have not heard about it, check it out here. It is really amazing what we as people can do when we stand together, and support one another.
This is why Carrying the Weight Together is so amazing! On Oct. 29th, those who are apart of college community are encouraged to grab a mattress and stand together in an effort to show support for those who have experienced sexual assault and domestic violence.
We had another great round table this Tuesday, where we had Sexual Assault Services (SAS) come and talk with us about the Red Flag Campaign, and the services that are provided throughout the college.
People had some great questions about consent, and raised some great points about how culturally there is a great impact on how we interact with one another sexually. There was a lot of focus on how “no” is not usually the stopping point, but the beginning of a negotiation, and how problematic that becomes, especially when people get worn down, and feel as though there is no other option.
All of these questions and topics were answered and further clarified by the wonderful people who came to visit from SAS. They did a great job of hosting our round table, and I know I walked away with more knowledge under my belt.
One of the biggest things I took away from this round table, is how fortunate we all are to have the support network created by SAS. Most institutions do not go to the lengths that these folks do in order to ensure that people get the help they need.
So here are some of things these amazing people do:
- Provide support whether you are in a situation yourself, or trying to be there for family or friends who are in abusive relationships, sexual assaults, stalking
- Anonymous reporting
- All services are confidential
- Always on call ( cell #, so you can text as well)
- College -Wide
- They can meet off-campus
- They will go to appointments, court, exams, etc.
They provide support when people need it the most, and are helping to ensure that survivors are aware of all of their options. We are quite fortunate to have this level of involvement, and people who invest so much time to make sure that survivors get help, and know that they are not alone.
SAS is under the NOVA Cares services here at NOVA. Here is there email: firstname.lastname@example.org and phone: 703-338-0834
Keep your calendars open for October 21 to join SAS for the Clothesline Project
For the entire month of October we will be celebrating the Red Flag Campaign, which brings attention to dating violence and works to prevent it from happening on college campuses.
Please join us tomorrow, 10/7 from 2-3 when Negar Ehsani, MSW, our NOVA Sexual Assault and Trauma Specialist, comes by to chat with us.
Hope to see you all there!
The internet is buzzing about California passing the Affirmative Consent Law. There are high emotions on either side, some feeling as though this is long overdue, while others feel as though the government is overstepping.
In California, the Senator Kevin de Leon introduced the Affirmative Consent Law that was recently passed by Governor Jerry Brown. This law is applicable to any higher education institution that receives state funding. The law tries to better outline what kind of protocols that should be in place, as well as what programs and support need to be in place for survivors of sexual violence.
I am curious to see the effectiveness of this bill, and what, if anything happens to institutions who do not comply with this law. There is a need for more resources available for survivors, and it is important to have a support network, hopefully this law provides the push needed to get campuses into action and providing these much needed spaces.
It will be interesting to see how other states react to this, especially states with institutions that have higher rates of sexual violence.
There is a lot of back and forth going on about what the law is and isn’t, here is a link Affirmative Consent , where you can take a look at the points, and what the campuses will have to do in order to comply.
One thing I have noticed in looking through comments, is that people are complaining that this places too much responsibility on the alleged attacker. In most cases the responsibility is on the victim of an attack, where there is the need to justify what they were doing, how much they were drinking, their sexual history, did they do anything to maybe give the faintest whiff of interest, etc. I think it is alright if there is more responsibility placed on the person being accused, instead of someone trying justify why it was horrible for them to be attacked.
From: http://hispanicheritagemonth.gov/ (Please check out some of the amazing stories)
Come join us today in the Women’s Center to celebrate Hispanic Heritage Month! We will be meeting from 2-3, and we get to hear from the amazing Noemi Rodriguez-Roman, who will be leading our discussion.
This week we had a very powerful Round Table Discussion with Professor Abebe Fekade, who talked about intimate partner violence. Lately we have heard a lot on this topic because it has been in the forefront of the news, but Professor Fekade wondered what can be done to implement a lasting change.
During these highly publicized incidents there is often national commentary on the events that take place, and a frequent comment that is repeated, is “why did she not just leave?” or other comments that focus on what the victim could have done to avoid the situation, instead of addressing the larger issue of abuse, and how it is brushed aside in our society.
The past few weeks are a perfect example of how we as society are horrified by the actions of others, and basque in that horror for the days or week that it is in the news, and go on with our lives until the next horror becomes the breaking news story. There is a failure to sit down and question what is going on in our society, and why these things are happening, and what can be done to circumvent them.
Within the last few weeks we have had the video where Janay Palmer is punched by her fiance, the police officer who sexually assaulted 8 black women, Hannah Graham the missing UVA student, and just now, a news alert popped up that a man in Oklahoma beheaded a woman at work, and tried to kill another woman. Most of these stories will fade into news oblivion, but for these victims and their families that horror will stay with them.
It can be claimed that these incidents have nothing to do with one another, and that these separate acts of violence are committed by those that are deranged, and a not a reflection of a heavier burden that is weighing down on society. Our discussion, touched on how this burden is seen when there are cultural norms that suggest that abuse is something kept between partners (that is just how they are), or that violence is a way of expressing love and protection. This just normalizes this behavior, and places a large amount of responsibility on victims. It is also trivializes genders, and places them into rigid roles, that provide an oversimplified explanation as to why violence occurs.
Our discussion did not end with all the answers as to what we can do to stop this, but we did talk about having a weekly discussion group that focuses on intimate partner violence, a place where we discuss some of these issues, and maybe come up with a way to make some headway. One of the things we did all agree on was respect; it may seem so simple, but it is often overlooked . Respecting people as they are, and not placing rigid gender roles, or archetypal roles, could help us learn about others, as well as ourselves, and appreciate both the similarities and differences.