This was sent to me and I thought I would share this with folks. I would be interested in seeing what folks think about this.
I used to love the Olympics when I was a kid; I would get really excited about them, and loved seeing these women compete in an area that they were passionate about. At that time I was heavily into soccer, so it was inspiring seeing these women get to such a high level and get the opportunity to show the world their skill.
I hope that is what other little folks see; I hope that they are inspired and driven by these folks to go after their dreams. However, I have noticed that whenever there are these women playing there are comments made about their beauty, their figure, and not much said about their talent. Who cares that they have devoted much of their time to staying in peak shape, and honing their skills, all that really matters is that they are hot.
Throughout the past couple of weeks, all I heard about was how hot the women’s curling teams are. People would say, ” I have no idea what curling is, but I like watching them” or “Is it a requirement for the women on the curling teams to be hot?”
There is nothing wrong with a woman being skilled and attractive, but I don’t see why whenever a woman is skilled, it is rare that she is complimented on her achievements or skills, it is about her physical attributes.
This morning I rode the bus into work and was wondering what was going through this guy’s head as he proceeded to complain about how awful American are, I believe the term used was “trash”. He went on this rant about how all these girls just wanted money and to be taken care of and that they did not really care about anybody, that they just wanted someone to take care of them. He also stated that these women were holding him back from where he wanted to be in life and that they were just going to keep dragging him down. This continued for about ten minutes until this woman stepped in and told him how offensive he was being. I can honestly say that I was not offended due to the fact that his comments reflected more about him than American women. She did make some good points about how he was young and maybe needed some time to grow into himself. She also mentioned that his comments were a reflection of him and the women he chose to hang out with, rather than a reflection of ALL American women. Her speech continued with how he talked about women being awful, but he was not really presenting himself as one of those good guys, and that he sounded just as bad as the women he was talking about. She said he was rude and disrespectful and because he talks about women in this manner that he will attract the kind of woman he claims to desire. A man on the on the bus also jumped in and talked to him about personal responsibility and how is in control of his own outcome rather than these terrible money-grubbing women holding him back.
I was rather touched and amused by this experience. I was amused because this older man and woman schooled him, but I am touched by the fact that they took the opportunity to educate this kid. Who knows if he will take the advice, but at least there is a chance that he might take something away from it. My hope is that he will and grow from this experience, even it takes some trial and error.
Bravo to these cool life teachers!
Someone linked an article on Facebook about this artist named Endia Beal, and I could not control my compulsion to click on the article and see what this talented lady had come up with.
Like the title of this post implies, Beal has taken photos of 40+ white women with what are typically seen as black hairstyles. The name of the project is “Can I Touch It?” I love the idea of this project, especially at a time when so many black females debate on whether or not to wear their hair naturally. In a lot of professionals settings it is seen as unprofessional to wear your natural hair. Yes, there are ways to make your hair fit into a more mainstream, “acceptable”, but I always wonder why is it necessary for me to alter my natural hair in order to fit someone else’s ideal, however, that is another post.
Beal captures these women with these hairstyles, and is hoping to extend that project so that these women, or women like them enter the corporate world with these hairstyles. According to David Rosenberg, “Beal is an artist looking to open a dialogue among people of different gender, race, and generations about the ways in which we express ourselves, specifically in a corporate environment.” I applaud her for using her art to create dialogue; I think she is being both creative and savvy in bringing this discussion about.
Important discussions aside, these are some amazing photos, and it is fascinating to see how the styles looked on the women.
Here is a link to the photos and article: http://www.slate.com/blogs/behold/2013/10/15/endia_beal_can_i_touch_it_explores_gender_race_and_generational_gaps_in.html
Also, this is her website that is under construction. I definitely think it is worth checking from time to time so we can see what she is up to:
Last week CNN featured a surprising article by Sara LeTrent on the little talked about subject of female on male rape. I think the article was a good step for many reasons: it discussed something that is usually ignored and ridiculed; it indeed stated that it is something that happens, not some slanderous myth from jaded men, and once again it was discussed (not discussing is what we as a society have been doing for a very long time, and we have seen where that has gotten us).
The article even featured a male survivor who shared his story, and how he struggled to come to terms with what happened to him, as well as his journey forward, which involves helping others come to terms with their own trauma.
I must say that the article surprised me with how it brought up Chris Brown and his interview where he talked about his own early sexual experiences. Sarah LeTrent highlights how this often seen as a conquest, something men are to be proud of, because it shows their sexual prowess at such a young age.
LeTrent made a lot of pertinent points, however I do disagree with this statement, “Were you aroused?’ is a question posed to male victims, St. John says. ‘You don’t hear it with female rape victims. It’s an interesting question that men get asked.” Women face those same questions, and I think it is an irrelevant question. At the heart of the issue are people who feel like they are entitled to others bodies, regardless of gender, and blatantly ignoring consent.
Here is the article to read it first hand: